Resentment: The Loop That Keeps You Small

Why self-blame delays your growth: how to stop seeking permission to live the life you want

Have you ever asked yourself,
“Why did I trust them when I knew better?”
“Why did I settle for crumbs when I deserved the whole meal?”
Or,
“Why do I still need permission to just be me?”

If you have, you’re not alone.
This week on Unbox The Podcast, I’m talking about a pattern I see with my clients all the time. Right when they’re about to make a breakthrough—when they’re finally about to shift into the next version of their life—that’s when they turn on themselves.

Resentment is the loop that keeps you small

Instead of celebrating their growth, they punish themselves for not getting there sooner.
They come down hard.
They replay the past.
They spiral into guilt and resentment.

But here’s the truth:
Resentment is the loop that keeps you small.

Why do we do this?

When you live in resentment, you’re not just angry at the past—you’re afraid of moving forward.
Guilt becomes a comfort zone.
It feels like if you punish yourself enough, you’ll prevent another mistake.
But life doesn’t work like that.

Growth isn’t about getting it perfect.
It’s about getting it going.

In this episode, I share how the BEMA™ Methodology—Body, Emotions, Mind, and Accountability—can help you break the loop of guilt and step into real, conscious change.

More compassion, not more criticism

What you actually need is more compassion, not more criticism. If you’re on the edge of change, you need to acknowledge how far you’ve come. Give yourself credit for the progress you’ve made.

There’s a saying in Arabic:
“Every container spills out what’s inside it.”
So if you fill yourself with guilt, that’s what your next chapter will reflect. If you fill yourself with compassion and awareness

you’ll make decisions aligned with the life you’re building now—not the mistakes you made before.

Listen now: Resentment—The Loop That Keeps You Small

In Season 25, Episode 30 of Unbox The Podcast, I talk about:

  • Why punishing yourself keeps you stuck
  • How to stop needing permission to move forward
  • Why compassion is the key to real change
  • The Four Dimensions of Change using the BEMA™ Methodology

 

Ready to break the loop?

If you’re done living life on repeat, book a Discovery Session with me.
Let’s unbox where you are, where you want to go, and how to get there—without guilt holding you back. Book your Discovery session, and complete the assessment form today. I’ll help you choose the right mentoring package for you—because everyone’s journey is unique.

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