Love, Let’s Keep it Uncomplicated: 5 Essential Tips for Building Lasting Relationships
In the complex world of modern relationships, finding and maintaining true connection can feel challenging. As an intuitive mentor, I’ve realised five transformative strategies that can help you build and sustain meaningful partnerships.
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Start from the Present
Every relationship is a journey. Before boarding the bus, as a wise man once told me, know your destination. So, ask yourself:
- What is my emotional state?
- Why do I want to love or be loved (notice I did not say fall in love)?
- What do I want from a relationship?
If you clarify your intentions and incentives; the journey will be a lot smoother- being honest with yourself is essential for accountability; and to avoid being “shocked” when things do not work out. Every relationship has a patter, and you’d well to spot the patterns, your own and the other’s; before you continue.
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One Relationship at a Time
Every relationship has a dynamic, like a tennis match. It requires two players, on the same court, and it needs focus and mutual engagement – in equal measure. Otherwise, if you give too much or hold back, you’ll throw the ball off the court, and there is no game. Attempting to play multiple matches simultaneously creates stress and prevents genuine connection. You will be distracted, and you won’t be aware of what patterns are building up- no have the bandwidth to give the relationship what it needs to grow.
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Identify Mutual Needs
Understanding both your and your partner’s expectations is a given – you may not have the same core values or priorities. Remember: No two individuals are identical. Recognize and respect each other’s unique needs and growth trajectories. What can you offer, and what won’t you accept. Write them down so that you are really clear about your needs and boundaries.
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Never Take Love for Granted
Relationships are living entities that require continuous nurturing. Regularly check:
- Are we still communicating effectively?
- Do we share genuine interest in each other’s lives?
- Are we growing together?
- Am I supported, do I support the needs that are important?
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Communicate Evolving Needs
Love is a connection, how you are treated and treat the other. Openly discuss your changing psychological and emotional needs. Communication prevents misunderstandings and keeps the relationship vibrant. You’d well if you replace expectation by ‘communication’.
Here’s the secret to Love
True love isn’t about finding the perfect partner but becoming the perfect partner for each other. Want to dive deeper into relationship mastery? Watch my free Love Webinar on Unbox Academy YouTube playlist for transformative guidance.
Where are you with love right now?
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